Online EMDR Therapist & Counsellor — UK & International
Pete Tobias Counselling
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EMDR for ADHD Adults
Affirming, online EMDR therapy — shaped around how your attention actually works
Welcome
A Safe Space to be your full self
I'm an EMDR Europe-accredited practitioner and BACP-accredited counsellor, working online with adults across the UK and internationally. I'm also neurodivergent myself.
I discovered this late, as an adult, during my own therapy training. It was life-changing. It was scary, too — it challenged who I thought I was and my sense of self. But it was also full of hope, because I finally found answers to why I'd always felt different, like I didn't quite fit in.
That experience is why I do this work. I understand a lot of it from the inside, not just from clinical training.
This is how therapy can help you
A short welcome from Pete Tobias, EMDR Europe Accredited Practitioner. Press play to hear a little about how I work, who I support across the UK and internationally, and what reaching out might look like for you.
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"Hello, and welcome. I'm Pete Tobias.
If you've found your way here, you're probably carrying something that's been weighing on you for a while — and I want you to know you're in the right place.
I'm an EMDR Europe Accredited Practitioner, and I work with people across the UK and internationally. EMDR is an evidence-based therapy for trauma and difficult life experiences, and for many people, working online is just as effective as meeting in person — with the added comfort of being somewhere familiar and safe.
I also offer counselling and EMDR for neurodivergent adults. I believe therapy should fit you — your way of processing, communicating, and making sense of the world — rather than asking you to fit it. We'd work together, collaboratively and flexibly, to find an approach that genuinely suits you.
Whatever's brought you here, you don't have to navigate it on your own. When you feel ready, get in touch, and we can take that first step together."
What you might be carrying
Many ADHD adults first contact me because they feel burnt out, overwhelmed or exhausted.
Some have recently discovered they're ADHD. Others have a diagnosis they've been trying to make sense of for years. Some are waiting for an assessment but have long suspected they experience the world differently.
On the surface, they may describe anxiety, emotional overwhelm, relationship difficulties, low confidence or simply feeling that life seems harder than it should.
As we begin exploring their story together, we often discover that today's struggles are only part of the picture.
Many ADHD adults carry painful experiences from childhood, school, relationships or family life. Bullying, repeated criticism, feeling misunderstood, being told they weren't trying hard enough, academic struggles despite genuine effort, or simply growing up believing they were different can all leave lasting emotional wounds.
Over time, these experiences don't just affect how you feel about the past.
They can begin shaping how you feel about yourself.
Many ADHD adults spend years believing there is something fundamentally wrong with them. In my experience, that belief often deserves just as much attention as the experiences that created it.
Wondering whether EMDR is right for you?
You don't need to have everything figured out before getting in touch. A complimentary 15-minute consultation gives us the opportunity to discuss what's bringing you to therapy, answer any questions you may have, and help you decide whether I feel like the right therapist for you.
ADHD Doesn't Need Fixing
One of the most important things I want you to know is this.
I don't see ADHD as something that needs fixing.
I don't help ADHD adults become someone different.
I help them let go of the pain that has taught them they needed to be.
In my experience, much of the suffering ADHD adults bring to therapy doesn't come from their neurology itself. It comes from years of trying to bend and contort themselves into environments, relationships and expectations that were never designed for an ADHD brain.
If you've spent years feeling different, it's understandable that you might begin believing you're broken.
I don't believe you are.
That doesn't mean ADHD isn't challenging. It can be. Difficulties with attention, organisation, emotional regulation or executive functioning are real, and therapy doesn't make those disappear overnight.
What can change is the relationship you have with yourself because of everything you've experienced.
You may still have an ADHD brain.
But you no longer have to see yourself through the lens of years of criticism, misunderstanding, rejection or shame.
How EMDR for ADHD Adults is Different
EMDR doesn't treat ADHD, nor would I want it to. ADHD is part of who you are, and I don't see that as something that needs changing. Instead, EMDR helps the brain and nervous system make sense of experiences that continue to influence the present, allowing them to become integrated into your wider life story rather than remaining emotionally overwhelming.
Many ADHD adults have spent years feeling misunderstood, criticised, rejected or as though they were somehow "not enough". Those experiences can continue shaping how you feel about yourself long after they've happened. EMDR helps the brain reprocess those experiences so they no longer carry the same emotional charge. The memories remain, but they no longer feel as though they're happening now.
As this happens, many people notice that the way they feel about the past begins to change. Perhaps even more importantly, the way they feel about themselves changes. Rather than constantly fighting against who they are, they begin relating to themselves with greater understanding, acceptance and confidence.
The goal isn't to change your ADHD. It's to change the relationship you have with yourself because of everything you've lived through. EMDR can't rewrite your history, but it can change how your history lives inside you. As painful experiences lose their emotional charge, many people find they are able to land more fully in the present, creating space to forge a different path into the future.
Find our more about Online EMDR.
If You've Recently Discovered You're ADHD
Discovering you're ADHD can bring a mixture of emotions. For some people there is relief. For others there is grief. For many, it's both.
You may begin looking back over your life and seeing experiences through a completely different lens. Things that never quite made sense suddenly do. You may wonder what life might have been like if you'd understood yourself sooner, or find yourself reinterpreting childhood, school, relationships and work through this new understanding.
A diagnosis can explain many things, but it doesn't automatically heal the emotional impact of years spent feeling different, misunderstood or as though you weren't enough. Understanding your brain is one part of the journey. Processing what you've lived through is another.
Whether you've been diagnosed recently, years ago, or you're still exploring whether ADHD might explain your experiences, EMDR can provide an opportunity to process experiences that continue to shape how you feel about yourself today. The goal isn't to change who you are. It's to help you let go of what no longer needs to define you.
A diagnosis can help you understand your brain. It doesn't have to define how you see yourself. As the emotional weight of past experiences begins to lift, many people find they develop a healthier, more compassionate relationship with themselves—not because they've become someone different, but because they're beginning to reconnect with who they've always been.
What If I'm Also Autistic?
Many ADHD adults are also autistic. Often referred to as AuDHD, this isn't simply ADHD and autism existing alongside one another. The interaction between the two can create a way of experiencing the world that is unique to each person.
You may enjoy novelty while also valuing routine, seek stimulation while becoming overwhelmed by it, or find that your needs change depending on the situation. Living in a predominantly neurotypical world can also bring repeated experiences of misunderstanding, rejection, masking, sensory trauma or feeling different from those around you.
EMDR doesn't aim to change your neurodivergence. It works with the experiences that may have become emotionally or physically 'stuck', helping them become integrated so they no longer continue to shape your present. Therapy is adapted around you, recognising your individual strengths, needs and ways of engaging with the world.
What To Expect From Our First Consultation
Meet with me for 15 minutes, ask the questions that matter to you, and get a sense of what it might be like working together. You’ll quickly know whether I feel like the right therapist for you, and I’ll let you know honestly whether I think I can help.
If you are specifically looking for EMDR therapy online, you can read more about the approach and what to expect here.
EMDR Therapy Online
EMDR therapy online is a structured, evidence-based approach for processing trauma, distressing memories, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm. Sessions are delivered securely online and follow a phased model including preparation, resourcing, and reprocessing.
Who Am I?
My name is Pete Tobias. I am a neurodivergent BACP Accredited counsellor and EMDR Europe Accredited Practitioner. I offer individual counselling and EMDR therapy to adults aged 18+.
I discovered I was neurodivergent as an adult during my own therapy training. That experience changed how I understand trauma, attention, emotional regulation and the nervous system. Today I combine EMDR with a neurodiversity-affirming approach, adapting sessions around how ADHD brains actually process information rather than expecting clients to fit a traditional therapy model.
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My location
I specialise in online EMDR therapy — a NICE-recommended, evidence-based treatment for trauma, PTSD and anxiety. As an EMDR Europe Accredited Practitioner, I offer a safe and supportive space for clients to process trauma and find growth and healing, all via secure video from the comfort of their own home.
Please get in touch to arrange a free 15-minute consultation — an opportunity to ask any questions and get a sense of what it might be like to work together.
Fees & availability
Counselling and EMDR sessions for individuals are 50 minutes long and usually take place on a weekly basis. The cost per session is £100. Please get in touch to enquire about availability and further information about pricing.
If you want to cancel an appointment, I require 48 hours’ notice, otherwise you will need to pay for sessions missed.
If you are experiencing difficulties and are looking for EMDR therapy online or counselling, please complete the booking form to arrange a no-pressure, free 15-minute consultation, or proceed to book an initial full assessment session for online EMDR therapy and counselling.
Still Wondering Whether This Is Right for You?
What if my experiences don't seem serious enough?
You don't have to reach a particular level of distress before therapy is worthwhile. Many ADHD adults have spent years questioning themselves or feeling that they should simply cope. If your experiences continue to affect how you feel about yourself or the way you live your life, they're worth exploring.
What if I don't know whether what I've experienced is trauma?
You don't need to answer that before we meet. My role isn't to decide whether your experiences fit a particular label. Together, we explore how your experiences may still be influencing your life today and whether counselling, EMDR, or a combination of both feels appropriate.
What if EMDR isn't right for me?
That's something we decide together. EMDR is one way of working, not the starting point for everyone. We begin by understanding you, your experiences and what you're hoping to achieve before deciding whether EMDR feels like the right fit.
What if I don't want to change who I am?
Neither do I. I don't see ADHD as something that needs fixing. The aim isn't to change the way your brain works, but to help reduce the emotional impact that difficult experiences may still have on your life.
What if I've tried therapy before and it didn't help?
Previous therapy doesn't mean future therapy won't help. Sometimes it's about finding an approach that fits you better, works at a different pace, or makes sense of your experiences in a different way.
What if I'm worried I'll have to relive everything?
EMDR doesn't require you to describe every detail of what happened. There are different ways of working, and we always move at a pace that feels manageable. You remain in control throughout the process.
How do I know if we're the right fit?
Finding the right therapist matters. That's why I offer a free 15-minute consultation. It's simply an opportunity to meet, ask questions and get a sense of how I work before deciding whether you'd like to continue.
Take the First Step
If something on this page has resonated with you, I'd be pleased to hear from you. Whether you're ready to begin EMDR or simply have questions about how it works, you're welcome to arrange a complimentary 15-minute consultation.
There is no obligation to continue afterwards. The consultation simply provides an opportunity to decide whether working together feels like the right fit.
Get in touch
If you have any questions about EMDR therapy or Online Counselling, you’re very welcome to get in touch. I offer a free 15-minute consultation—an opportunity for us to talk about what’s bringing you to therapy, whether EMDR could be a helpful approach, and whether we might be a good fit to work together.
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